Parents establish rules because they love their children. We taught our young children to stay out of the street to keep them from being struck by an automobile. The rules were in place because we loved them.
Their willingness to obey our rules demonstrated their love to us. They cared about what we wanted from them. They respected our wishes because they love us.
In any relationship where there are rules and boundaries or an authority and a submissive, love will make the difference between obedience and disobedience.
Jesus said, “If ye love me, keep my commandments.” At first this may sound manipulative, but once we understand that love is the basis for the commandments, it will be our love that produces a willingness to obey.
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