My brother and I have a bad habit of over tightening.
We were replacing the seat on his old motorcycle. The rear portion had a loop that dropped over a bolt that was welded to the fender. A cap nut then screwed onto this fixed bolt to secure the seat.
We finger tightened the nut and then used a ratchet to snug the nut on. The problem is that a ratchet applies a bit more force than you realize.
We tightened it a little, then a little more, then just one more for good measure.
The it happened…..snap. We broke the bolt right off the fender.
Sometimes we treat people the same way.
We push on them a little, then a little bit more, then just a little more.
If we aren’t careful, we will push until they snap.
Pressuring people and leading with harsh words results in broken relationships.
The more you push, the more likely you are to break it.
There is room for a little pressure, but you’ve got to know when to stop.
Joel Stiff's Adventure 